Remember the saying “stick and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? Well, I think we can all state that words can hurt you. When we call someone by a name that name sticks and can cause us to have lower self-esteem. If someone in your life time called you stupid, for instances, you may have held that label all these years. You may find yourself inwardly telling yourself that you’re stupid when in fact you are not.
At times the intent of the person speaking is to promote positive. Wow, you’re smart! Or you are so bold! These labels, smart and bold, can been interpreted by the receiver as a negative. Perhaps being told you are smart leaves you with the dread of always having to know the answers. You have the reputation of smart to live up to. We are always trying to live up to people’s expectations for us.
When I am dealing with clients I always ask them to remove labels. So many times people will tell me that they are not good enough because they have ADD or are dyslexic or simply state they have a learning disability. All of these are labels and we tend to live to the label. Remove the label and you will see just how far you can go.
I’m not saying that the person doesn’t have ADD or isn’t dyslexic. These are real situations, but there are ways to move past the label. Need I bring up all the people in the world who are a success regardless of a label someone placed on them?
Enjoy live, value your differences, remove the labels and take action to have the life you always wanted. After all, you hold the keys! Oh and watch what you call people, it does hurt!
In case you are wondering who some of the “famous” people with dyslexia are here is a short list:
Cher, Henry Winkler, Thomas Edison, Leonardo Da Vinci, Alexander Graham Bell, Agatha Christie, Albert Einstein, Dale S. Brown, Danny Grover, Walt Disney, Tom Cruise, Winston Churchill, Whoopi Goldberg, George Patton, Nelson Rockafeller, Charles Schwab